In this Module, you will learn a 5 Step Process to Transform Anything.
Yes – anything. It’s a system, so it can be applied to any challenge, in any area of life.
The 5 steps include: step back, identify what’s stopping you, let go, say yes, and take empowered action. We’re going to explore each one in detail, and then you’re going to practice.
Loosely, this means that you need a little space to get a new perspective. When taken literally – which can be very useful depending on the challenge – it means get up and walk away from the problem.
Change your perspective by changing your location in the room, taking a walk to clear your mind, or giving yourself enough distance to see something that you couldn’t see clearly before.
In a tense conversation, this can give you some time and space to cool off. When faced with a challenge that you’re thinking through, it can soften your mental tension enough for you to discover new insights.
If you’re stuck, there’s probably a good reason. Something is stopping you. Now we need to figure out what it is.
I feel obligated to warn you that it may not be what you think it is.
The thing is, you have no direct experience of the world. You only have your interpretations and thoughts about what happens. While this may seem like stating the obvious, it’s an obvious worth stating. It will be very helpful to catch yourself and name your thinking. For example, instead of saying to yourself, “that’s a lovely blouse,” I encourage you to say, “I think that’s a lovely blouse.” This will train you to realize that you think… everything.
In Byron Katie’s book, “Loving What Is” she says that having thoughts is never a problem. We all have thoughts. We can’t stop ourselves from having thoughts. If you don’t believe me, try.
But as Byron Katie points out, believing your thoughts is often a problem.
Consider this… “She doesn’t like me” (said internally or outloud as though it is a fact) is a very different statement than “I believe she doesn’t like me.”
I’m taking the time to point all of this out because the thing that is stopping you is a BELIEF.
Leaning on our example from the end of the last module, if Jane believes that she must lose 25 lbs before she can fully show up for her own life, the thing stopping her is NOT the 25 lbs. The thing stopping her is the belief that she MUST be a certain weight before she can participate fully in her own life.
Once you’ve identified the belief standing between you and what you desire, all there is to do is let it go.
I know… not as easy as it sounds. But it becomes easier with practice. Your language is essential.
To do this, work your way backwards through your limiting statements, like this:
I must lose 25 lbs before I can live and enjoy life fully.
I believe that I must lose 25 lbs before I live and enjoy can life fully.
I believe the thought that I must lose 25 lbs before I can live and enjoy life fully.
Do you see how we’re creating space? Just because you think it doesn’t mean it’s true. I mean, I think my kid is the cutest one in his class, but I’m willing to bet that every other mom does as well. We can’t all be right! Just because I think it doesn’t make it true!
Recognizing that my belief in something doesn’t make it true loosens the grip it has on me. It can give me just enough space the breathe, and with the breath, I can start to explore what else might be true?
And then I might realize…
I don’t have to lose 25 lbs. before I can live and enjoy life fully. I could start living fully right now, and by living fully, I might just enjoy life more.
Yeah… that feels more true (and less oppressive!)
Once you start to realize that not everything you think is true, the next step in this 5 step process is for you to say YES!
Say yes to the health you want.
Say yes to the career you want.
Say yes to the relationship you want.
Say yes to the life you want!
Say yes to the deep goal that you identified in Module 2. And then take action. Do not let this become another dream that collects dust on the shelf. For this to truly be a goal, we must continue into step 5.
The final step is ACTION.
Recall that a dream is fueled by hope. A goal is fueled by committed and consistent action. Once you have said yes to the truth of your goal, figure out a plan that will get you there. (If you’re goal is around energy, weight, or [INNER] beauty, you will find plenty of support right here for that.)
If you’re really serious about this goal, get accountability for your action plan. This involves telling a trusted party what you plan to and are willing to do in service of your goal and then reporting regularly on the actions you’ve taken. Why? Because there’s a TON of evidence that says that you are far more likely to follow through if you tell someone what you’re up to.
BONUS – if you really want to be successful, create an action plan that points you at your deep goal, not the superficial one.
If you’re exploration led you to the realization that you want to enjoy deeper connections with loved ones, this isn’t time to go on a diet. It’s time to carve out space for honest conversations, schedule activities and events that bring you together, and maybe even take on the practice of conscious breathing or meditating so that you’re more present in every moment.
In this Module, you will learn a 5 Step Process to Transform Anything.
Yes – anything. It’s a system, so it can be applied to any challenge, in any area of life.
The 5 steps include: step back, identify what’s stopping you, let go, say yes, and take empowered action. We’re going to explore each one in detail, and then you’re going to practice.
Loosely, this means that you need a little space to get a new perspective. When taken literally – which can be very useful depending on the challenge – it means get up and walk away from the problem.
Change your perspective by changing your location in the room, taking a walk to clear your mind, or giving yourself enough distance to see something that you couldn’t see clearly before.
In a tense conversation, this can give you some time and space to cool off. When faced with a challenge that you’re thinking through, it can soften your mental tension enough for you to discover new insights.
If you’re stuck, there’s probably a good reason. Something is stopping you. Now we need to figure out what it is.
I feel obligated to warn you that it may not be what you think it is.
The thing is, you have no direct experience of the world. You only have your interpretations and thoughts about what happens. While this may seem like stating the obvious, it’s an obvious worth stating. It will be very helpful to catch yourself and name your thinking. For example, instead of saying to yourself, “that’s a lovely blouse,” I encourage you to say, “I think that’s a lovely blouse.” This will train you to realize that you think… everything.
In Byron Katie’s book, “Loving What Is” she says that having thoughts is never a problem. We all have thoughts. We can’t stop ourselves from having thoughts. If you don’t believe me, try.
But as Byron Katie points out, believing your thoughts is often a problem.
Consider this… “She doesn’t like me” (said internally or outloud as though it is a fact) is a very different statement than “I believe she doesn’t like me.”
I’m taking the time to point all of this out because the thing that is stopping you is a BELIEF.
Leaning on our example from the end of the last module, if Jane believes that she must lose 25 lbs before she can fully show up for her own life, the thing stopping her is NOT the 25 lbs. The thing stopping her is the belief that she MUST be a certain weight before she can participate fully in her own life.
Once you’ve identified the belief standing between you and what you desire, all there is to do is let it go.
I know… not as easy as it sounds. But it becomes easier with practice. Your language is essential.
To do this, work your way backwards through your limiting statements, like this:
I must lose 25 lbs before I can live and enjoy life fully.
I believe that I must lose 25 lbs before I can live and enjoy life fully.
I believe the thought that I must lose 25 lbs before I can live and enjoy fully.
Do you see how we’re creating space? Just because you think it doesn’t mean it’s true. I mean, I think my kid is the cutest one in his class, but I’m willing to bet that every other mom does as well. We can’t all be right! Just because I think it doesn’t make it true!
Recognizing that my belief in something doesn’t make it true loosens the grip it has on me. It can give me just enough space the breathe, and with the breath, I can start to explore what else might be true?
And then I might realize…
I don’t have to lose 25 lbs. before I can live and enjoy life fully. I could start living fully right now, and by living fully, I might just enjoy life more.
Yeah… that feels more true (and less oppressive!)
Once you start to realize that not everything you think is true, the next step in this 5 step process is for you to say YES!
Say yes to the health you want. Say yes to the career you want. Say yes to the relationship you want. Say yes to the life you want!
Say yes to the deep goal that you identified in Module 2. And then take action. Do not let this become another dream that collects dust on the shelf. For this to truly be a goal, we must continue into step 5.
The final step is ACTION.
Recall that a dream is fueled by hope. A goal is fueled by committed and consistent action. Once you have said yes to the truth of your goal, figure out a plan that will get you there. (If you’re goal is around energy, weight, or [INNER] beauty, you will find plenty of support right here for that.)
If you’re really serious about this goal, get accountability for your action plan. This involves telling a trusted party what you plan to and are willing to do in service of your goal and then reporting regularly on the actions you’ve taken. Why? Because there’s a TON of evidence that says that you are far more likely to follow through if you tell someone what you’re up to.
BONUS – if you really want to be successful, create an action plan that points you at your deep goal, not the superficial one.
If you’re exploration led you to the realization that you want to enjoy deeper connections with loved ones, this isn’t time to go on a diet. It’s time to carve out space for honest conversations, schedule activities and events that bring you together, and maybe even take on the practice of conscious breathing or meditating so that you’re more present in every moment.